I want to not to want to fit in to fit in. Capiche?

Hi bloggity,

Like many of my other blog posts, I'm here yet again, in the summer holidays where I actually have time to myself to do other things than the usual teachery things. (Yes, that's the technical term!).

I feel this is my online diary that I dabble into now and again. I've always liked the idea of a diary or a journal as it is called as you enter adulthood. I feel like this is a little place in the corner of the internet that I can, be me. Which in itself seems odd, because, well, I am me outside of this blog. But I guess what I'm truly trying to get at is that here on my blog I can fangirl and geek out about my favourite things where in the "real world" I can only geek out to an extent. Which again, I am contradicting myself as now it sounds like I hide parts of me in order to fit in and I am very much a person who isn't too fussed about fitting into the "bigger crowd" as long as I have my close friends with me. And if you're not confused by now, congratulations. 

 

I guess it's almost animal instinct that we all want to fit in; that deep down we have that desire to be accepted and be part of something; something bigger than we know. Some people are just more explicit at wanting to fit in than others. There's a spectrum of "wanting to fit in".

Some people follow the latest trends, have the latest fashion, tastes and styles; pop culture if you will. Some people make a point to explicitly not follow mass interest and relevance in these same categories. And then there are people whom sit in the middle, they enjoy the latest watchamacallits, dabble in a few, watch others dabble in others, but also enjoy other less talked about things. But what it boils down to is that whatever category you may or may not fit in, it's okay. And I think that is the point that is sometimes quite hard to swallow.

The fear of not being part of something, the security of being protected by a group of people, is what drives us as people. It's a worldwide, unspoken fact, you are stronger if you are more than one. And yes, this is 100% true. I have no doubt about it. Pick up one uncooked spaghetti and snap it in half. Easy. Pick up the whole packet of uncooked spaghetti and snap it in half. Not so easy. But the point is, being part of a crowd is not always the best as comfortable as it may feel.

There are tonnes and tonnes of stories that explain how being different is actually the best way to be. From Alan Turing to Albus Severus Potter to everyone in between, they all did what they did because they were different. They changed their worlds because they were different. As much as they may have wanted to fit in, what made them different, made them who they are.

All in all, I'm going round in sqovals. It's not important what you like, how you like it and why you like it. But what is important, is that it's okay to like it, whether you want to not to want to fit in to fit in.

Being different is powerful.

Keep smiling,

Skeena xxx